We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network team member Rosie joins Kate to discuss how, for some people with vaginismus, reading erotica and/or watching a sexy movie can be game-changing when it comes to using dilators…

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network co-founder Lisa joins Kate to discuss how, for some people, it’s important to be present and have no distractions when dilating…

We often hear about vaginismus as an isolating condition no one bothers with. So it was amazing to hear from Nina Parnham, a midwife and women’s health practitioner, and her client Sarah. Through communication and initiative, they worked together to improve Sarah’s pain. From physio, to meditation – nothing was off the table! This really was a team effort, so team member Natalie got chatting to both of them.

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network co-founder Lisa joins Kate to explain how talking about dilation with friends can help to normalise it…

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network co-founder Lisa joins Kate to discuss how making dilators a part of your bedroom can help…

CONTENT WARNING: This post contains references to sexual abuse and self-harm which could be triggering for some readers.

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network co-founder Kat Wilson joins Kate to discuss using dilators alongside sex toys…

Katrin shares her experience of trying to sweep vaginismus under the rug for many years, to finally overcoming it at her own pace. She now helps others who are struggling with vaginismus and can be found at katrinwithlove.com, and on Instagram as @pain.free.and.intimate.

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network co-founder Kat Wilson joins Kate to discuss how giving dilators humorous names can help…

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Lisa joins Kate to discuss how keeping a dilation diary can help…

We are always in awe of those who reach out to share their stories, and we want to thank network member Krista for being so open in sharing her experience of living with vaginismus. We think this is an interesting read for medical professionals and GPs. If vaginismus sufferers would like to read it, please be aware that it does come with a content warning as it includes PTSD and very graphic accounts of certain medical procedures. As always, we are a support network, not professionals, and are here to share the experiences of everyone living with vaginismus.

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network volunteer Natalie joins Kate to discuss why it’s okay to take a break…

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network volunteer Natalie joins Kate to discuss how including dilating in your routine can make a real difference…

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network co-founder Kat Wilson joins Kate to discuss using them in the bath…

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network co-founder Kat Wilson joins Kate to discuss using them with your partner…

Network member Nikki first experienced symptoms of vaginismus aged 14. Here she shares her frustrating - and, at times, heartbreaking - experience of living with vaginismus. Now in her mid-twenties, Nikki has come to terms with her vaginismus and wants anyone experiencing it to know that there is hope and that it absolutely does not define you.

We’re delighted to be teaming up with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we’ll talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by the Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. Next up, Lisa and Kate talk pleasure…

In this post Ms.DeActra very openly and generously shares her experience of living with vaginismus, the struggles it’s brought, and ends with a very important reminder to us all.

Life coach Audrey Cairo opens up about her experience with vaginismus and talks about the importance of being kind to yourself. If you find this post helpful and would like to find ways to rebuild your confidence, don’t hesitate to get in touch and book in a free sample session with Coaching with Audrey Cairo – V.&Me.

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, we will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by the talented Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. This time, Vaginismus Network volunteer Natalie joins Kate to discuss why you shouldn’t force it…

We’re delighted to be collaborating with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, Lisa and Kate will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by Hazel Mead, from both a personal and a professional perspective. Next up is breathing…

Emma is in her thirties and has primary vaginismus. Here she shares her experience of trying to get pregnant with vaginismus.

We’re delighted to be teaming up with psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle for our #dilatingisdoable series. Throughout the series, Lisa and Kate will talk about each of the tips from our ‘Dilating is Doable (even fun, sometimes)’ illustration by the incredibly talented Hazel Mead, from both a personal and professional perspective. First, we’re gonna talk lube…

Melanie is 32 and has had primary vaginismus ever since first trying to use a tampon aged
15. Here, she shares her experience with what having vaginismus has taught her about her body.

25-year-old Natalie is a primary vaginismus sufferer who’s overcome painful intercourse to have a much happier (and less stressful) sex life. She wants other people with vaginismus to know that despite patchy information, and our lack of knowledge as a society, improving your condition is still more than possible - and that the right help could be just around the corner.